New Address for Abrams Mediation

We have moved! fish jumping from one water to wine.

Our new address

Abrams Mediation & Arbitration, Inc.
5720 LBJ Fwy, Ste. 560
Dallas, TX 75240–6328
USA

Contact us by phone

(O) 972.702.9066
(C) 214.289.4427
(F) 214.526.5880

Contact us by email

Jeff Abrams
jeff@abramsmediation.com
Kelli McClain – Case Coordinator
kellie@abramsmediation.com

Reserving a date on the calendar

Our online calendar shows the dates Jeff is currently available. Try the calendar here. It is easy to use. Click on the date you desire to send a request via email.

“COURAGE IS WHAT IT TAKES TO STAND UP AND SPEAK. COURAGE IS ALSO WHAT IT TAKES TO SIT DOWN AND LISTEN”
–WINSTON CHURCHILL

About Jeff

Jeff Abrams, Esq. has successfully mediated, arbitrated, or negotiated challenging cases for thousands of parties since 1986.

Jeff specializes in difficult to settle cases — complex commercial litigation, securities, employment discrimination, intellectual property, health care, contract and general business disputes. He quickly gets to the heart of the matter, generating thoughtful and practical solutions to seemingly intractable problems. He is persistent in the quest for resolution.

As an arbitrator, Jeff takes charge to ensure fair hearings. He gives all participants a full opportunity to be heard and makes reasoned rational decisions based on the evidence and the law.

As settlement counsel/negotiator, Jeff is retained to negotiate on behalf of a party, often in a mediation context, working as part of the trial/settlement team. His inside knowledge of process and advanced negotiation skills bring added value to the deal.

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Boxing – another Alternative Dispute Resolution technique?

Maybe the earliest form of dispute resolution was beating the #%!& out of the other guy. Over time, “civilization” did its civilizing thing, and we now have more skillful means for resolving conflict. It is far better to talk it out, to negotiate solutions to disputes than to resort to violence. So why did I put on a pair of boxing gloves and get in the ring at the age of 54?

I was about twelve years old when I last took a swing at someone. There was a kid bullying my little brother. Every day he would come to the corner as we waited for the bus, and he would taunt Warren. One day I spoke up, I told him to quit making fun of my brother. When he didn’t, I slugged him (POW). He ran home crying, our mothers exchanged calls, and I was told that physical violence was not the way to solve problems (but also told, “good for standing up for your brother”).

As time went by, I naturally gravitated toward communication, interest-based negotiation, and mediation to resolve conflict. I encounter people in highly charged emotional situations and help them think clearly and focus on solutions. The venting process helps them blow off steam. I wondered, what if they punched something as well? Sometimes they look like they want to.

Before long I found myself at Oak Lawn Boxing with Travis Glenn, an extraordinarily gifted trainer. Initially I asked to be on the non-sparring track – give me exercise and agility but keep me from getting hurt. After the first lesson, I was hooked (though technically I didn’t learn to throw a “hook” until the second lesson).

Boxing is a head, heart, and body sport. It is, or can be, highly technical. There is a lot to think about – what punches to throw, timing and speed, blocking and avoiding, combinations. My brain is fully engaged in the thinking part of this sport. Alas, my body does not always do what I ask it to do. I send signals to my legs and arms, and wait for the response. Still I am getting faster and more fluid.

And then there is the Heart of boxing, what I call the Zen of Boxing. I’m not there yet but I move toward that moment when everything comes together – when the artificial becomes natural, when I feel “in the flow.” I’m taking baby steps, becoming more confident with my punches and more comfortable moving around the ring. I try to relax and be intense at the same time. I feel a real sense of power, of being in command. Testosterone levels climb as I tap into primal aggression and channel it, thoughtfully and intelligently. I breathe through every punch.

Boxing, like Zen, holds opposites: stillness and motion, calmness and intensity. I’m enjoying the experience and the challenge of mastering a new sport. We’ll see where the journey takes me, and how it will inform my practice. I just might take out my boxing gloves at the next mediation.

For more information about Oak Lawn Boxing and my trainer, Travis Glenn, visit: http://www.oaklawnboxing.com/ Travis is a great instructor. First lesson is free!

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PIABA Conference, October 26 – 30

The Palm Springs weather was perfect – clear warm sunny days and cool sweater nights. Starry starry skies. Green velvet manicured golf courses. And would you believe I was there for business? I must admit to some R&R — taking the world’s largest rotating aerial tramcar on a breathtaking journey up the sheer cliffs of Chino Canyon and hiking in Mt. San Jacinto State Park, smoking a cigar and sipping fine scotch with old and new friends, managing to win some at the casino, then lose it all within five minutes.

I was in Palm Springs for the PIABA annual conference. PIABA is an organization dedicated to protecting public investors. Its members are tireless advocates in representing investors in securities arbitration. I have worked with many of these fine lawyers in a mediation context and it was good to reconnect with them, and to meet new people, lawyers and experts alike. Several folks came up to thank me for a different reason. They were my students, having attended my mediation training classes in NYC, Portland, and Dallas in the late 1990’s. FINRA (then called NASD DR) sent a team of their top people to Portland to learn about mediation. There was a freak ice storm and we were shut in for days – a real captive audience, you might say. Within a few months, the FINRA mediation program was up and running.

But back to Palm Springs – the PIABA conference was a tremendous success on many levels – personally and professionally. The CLE programs were interesting and informative. I will definitely be back next year. I am a neutral and will be attending the SIFMA conference in the fall, learning from the other side of the docket (firms and brokers). Continuing education informs my practice and makes me a better mediator. So does taking on new challenges and living a good life! Be well.

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Dallas Bench-Bar Conference, Sept. 23-24, 2011

Kudos to the organizers and sponsors of this year’s Dallas Bench-Bar Conference in Horseshoe Bay. Great made-to-order weather, a beautiful hotel, interesting CLE programs, and lots of shmooze time with lawyers and judges. Tried my hand at sporting clays and hit the targets better than 50% of the time. Not too shabby. Alternative dispute resolution? Talking works better!

Shooting clay targets at Dallas Bench-Bar Conference

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